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I have a lot of thoughts about mental illness and faith, but I'm not sure if I should share them because 1) I'm writing this late at night and 2) They are my thoughts and feelings based on the experiences I've had and they probably don't apply to other people.
But I'm going to type them out and see how it goes.
At church we talk a lot about the Holy Ghost and how if you're living righteously you will feel good and if you're doing something wrong you'll feel bad.
But it's not that simple.
When I felt anxiety I assumed it was the Spirit. I assumed I was doing something wrong or that something bad was happening and I was being warned, but I couldn't figure out what was wrong.
Then I met Jeff and told him everything in my heart and he emphasized that the Spirit of God is not a spirit of confusion. This made sense to me. Then I was married in the temple to my best friend for time and all eternity. This was something I knew was right. But still when I was in the temple I felt bad. I felt heavy and flustered and nauseous and not good.
The fall after our wedding I felt like that a lot. And I felt sad. So sad. So heavy and so sad. Jeff told me I should talk to someone and that there is no shame in getting help. And then he told me again. And again. And again. And probably a few more times. So I scheduled an appointment at the counseling center and eventually (after trying exercise and meditation and vitamins and still needing help) I started taking medication. It was all very scary and very hard. Even though I was getting help it was still a basement of a year, and I was continuing bad habits like not eating because it made me feel less weighed down. I withdrew from God because I was ashamed and embarrassed of how I felt. Praying was awkward so I avoided it. I also have social anxiety, and going to church was terrifying. So I didn't. I stayed home and slept. Sleeping never came easy at night, but it was all I wanted to do during the day.
Line upon line, things got lighter. Right now I'm doing pretty well. And even though that year was hell, and it's very likely I'll have more times like that, I think I'm better prepared to handle them. Because now I know that there is something called anxiety. And just because you feel bad doesn't mean you're doing something bad, and more, doesn't mean you are bad.
I've come to hold onto the "I make weak things become strong" scripture like a toddler takes to a favorite blanket. I still have a lot to learn about it, though.
If there are two things I've always known it's that 1) There is a God and 2) He loves me with a love so perfect that I can't even comprehend it. I trust that He knows better than I do, and will only allow me to experience difficulties that He knows I can not just endure, but grow from. Knowing these things has brought so much clarity and understanding to everything, but especially the hard things. Onward and upward.
So where am I right now?
I'm still trying to become reacquainted with someone I used to know pretty well. I mean, when you don't talk to someone for months because you're embarrassed to do so, when you do finally talk to them it's awkward. I feel like He's saying, "Amy, I know it was hard for you to pray and read your scriptures and go to church because of your depression. I understand that. But you're doing better and I expect more from you now." So I'm working on rebuilding those bridges.
I'm not going to counseling because it's not free any more. I recently stopped taking my medication. I don't know why. I ran out and didn't get my prescription refilled.
Taking medication is so hard. The physical act of it isn't, but acknowledging that something is wrong with you and that it's something you can't fix is. And you're guaranteed to be reminded of that at least once a day. It takes a lot of humility to swallow that little white pill every morning.
I just read this blog post about a mom who started taking medication for the benefit of her family, and now I am rethinking everything because I think I might still need it. I mean, for me obviously, but also for Jeff and Ezra. I know it's hard to have a mental illness, but I realize it's probably just as hard to have a loved one with a mental illness.
So that's where I'm at right now with drugs. I don't know if I need them or not, and I don't like taking medication of any type unless I really need it. If Jeff thinks it would help, I will take antidepressants again. Because I trust him and he is usually better at knowing since he is outside of my brain. And because I don't want my pride to get in the way of my family's harmony.
The thing is, I kind of like feeling all the emotions. I feel like they've made me more human. More capable of empathy and love. More aware and tenderhearted. I feel like they've helped me in my relationships with others.
It's kind of a superpower and kryptonite at the same time.
And if men come unto me I will show
unto them their weakness. I give unto
men weakness that they may be humble;
and my grace is sufficient for all men
that humble themselves before me; for if
they humble themselves before me, and
have faith in me, then will I make weak
things become strong unto them.
EDIT: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints has a page talking about the characteristics of mental illnesses, how you can help someone who has one, and links to talks and articles about mental illnesses. You can find it here.
As always, these are my thoughts that have come about through my experience. They are not official Truth or anything. I welcome all comments and discussion.
You might feel like this is another one of those overshare posts, and that is fine. I promise not to judge you for keeping things to yourself, so please don't judge me for being more open.